How my Husband has Shaped Me as a Mom

So it is my husband’s birthday today. It’s his last one before he turns 30, but to be honest I think we are both looking forward to our 30s. Not that our 20s were so bad, but that we are excited for the things we feel God is leading us towards in the next few years. But I wanted to take this opportunity on this Mama Monday to give you a little insight to how Matt has shaped me as a mom.

Side note: my husband’s name is Matt, but we all call him Mutzie, one main reason is that one of my other sisters also married a Matt, but I always get the question, ‘Where did the name Mutzie come from?’ No, I did not come up with this myself; it is actually something that he has had most of his life. One of his grandpa’s was Finnish and in Finnish ‘Matt’ is something along the lines of ‘Mutzie’ so that is where it came from, so from here on out, I will refer to Matt as Mutzie. Ha.

So Mutzie is not a kid person at all so when we found out we were pregnant we had a lot of conversations about what it would be like to be parents. I had all the confidence in the world about being a mom, but Mutz was always unsure how he would be. I would tell him time and again that he would be the perfect dad for our kids because they are his, not anyone else’s. Well I have to tell you that since having our daughter, I have seen Mutz grow in ways that I never anticipated. Instead of me teaching him to be a good dad, he has taught me to be a way better mom. He has helped me learn how and when to step back and let Olive figure it out, he has helped me put so many things in perspective, like when Olive was little and was taking a bottle and I would get all worked up when she would choke a little bit and Mutz said to me ‘What is she going to choke on? She is on a liquid diet!’. Haha. He is truly the perfect counterpart for me in this thing called motherhood and I am so incredibly thankful to God for blessing me with him.

Now I am fully aware that this is my story, that not every husband and dad is there for their wife or kids, or maybe he was taken away too soon, but over the last couple years, God has revealed himself to me through Mutzie time and time again. I realized that if this earthly man loves me enough to go through raising kids with me and battling through the hardship that is life, how much more does God love and support me as a mom.

God wants to be on your side during motherhood, even if your spouse is super Dad, God is always there ready to lend a hand, be a shoulder to cry on and an energy boost when you need it. I know that God can’t physically hold your baby when he or she is crying in the middle of the night, but He can hold you if you just cry out to him. God is your biggest fan and cheering you on saying, ‘Go, Mom, Go!’ ‘You got this’ ‘I created you do to this’ ‘I am right here!’.

Now I think my husband is a rockstar Dad and husband, but he too fails me. He is human for that matter, and I have learned that if I put too much of my hope and trust in Mutz to provide me what I need to be a mom, I will come up short. I have to put God in the number one spot; He has to be the one that I get my strength and identity from. If Mutzie was taken from me, would I still be able to mom and love my kids the way they need? It would be so difficult, but I know that God would be with me every step providing all I need for the situations I find myself in. So why not start living life like that now? Why not be thankful for the blessings of an amazing husband and father to my children, but remember that it is still all about God-that I will always find what I need with and through Him- for that is the only way that I will be able to be the best mom I can be.

So as I celebrate my husband today and the life that he has been given, I celebrate all of you moms too. The moms with awesome husbands who get up in the middle of the night to help with that crying baby, and to the moms whose husbands seem distant or aren’t around at all. Remember that your Heavenly Father is there for you. He is there with you in the middle of the night, during the tantrum that your toddler is throwing, or providing you the wisdom to deal with your teenager. Cry out to him and He will answer, He is the best support that you could get. He knows you better than you know yourself and He is just a prayer away.

So Happy 29^th Birthday Mutzie! I pray that today you feel loved and celebrated by all those around you. I pray that God continues to bless you in your life and that you continue to seek after Him with your whole heart. Thank you for being an amazing example to the world around you and reminding me the type of love and grace that God pours out to His children. You truly are a man after God’s heart and I pray that those that read this can be encouraged by your example. Olive and I love you so much and are so thankful for all you do for us!